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I’ve been thinking lately about how often our instinct is to add something when things don’t feel right. Something is wrong, so we look for something to fix it. A supplement. A new routine. A healthier food. Another strategy. Another appointment. Another thing to do. I know this tendency well. Recently, I’ve had some issues with my bowels. My usual response would probably have been to think, Okay, what can I take? What should I eat? What supplement might help? What can I do t

Fear is one of our oldest survival tools, rooted in the brain’s natural instinct to protect us from danger. Sometimes, though, what we fear isn’t life-threatening at all—it’s the unknown, failure, rejection, or even our own potential. These fears often grow from the beliefs we’ve carried with us: “I’m not good enough,” “I might get it wrong,” or “It’s safer not to try.” The truth is, fear shrinks when we turn to face it. By getting curious about our fears—asking where they co

What if you stopped trying to change everything at once? There’s a Japanese philosophy called Kaizen, which roughly translates to continuous improvement — making small, intentional changes over time. It’s often used in business and workplaces, but I think there’s something incredibly powerful about applying Kaizen to ourselves. We can be so focused on the big transformation. The new year. The new job. The new body. The new relationship. The version of ourselves we think we sh

I wish I’d seen this 10 years ago I’ve just watched Robyn Malcolm: Menopause and Us on TVNZ, and I really wanted to share it with you. At 48, and having experienced perimenopause for a number of years now, I found myself nodding along, reflecting, and thinking: I wish I’d known this 10 years ago. What I really appreciated about this documentary was seeing Robyn Malcolm — someone so recognisable to most Kiwi women — openly share her own experience and then create space for oth

We often hear the phrase, "Like attracts like." Some dismiss it as wishful thinking, while others believe it is the secret to creating the life they want. I think the truth sits somewhere in the middle. For me, it isn't about magically attracting success, money, or happiness simply by thinking about them. It's about alignment. When you spend time doing things that genuinely satisfy you, challenge you, inspire you, or bring you joy, something changes within you. You begin to e

This morning, my daughter forgot to do something. And, as mums do, I found myself asking: “How do you think I keep track of everyone in this house and everything that is going on?” Her answer? “You just have a good memory.” I laughed. Because while I do think I have a reasonably good memory, that is definitely not how I manage to keep track of everything. I forget things. I double-book myself. I have turned up on the wrong day before. I have forgotten appointments. I have occ

Last week, I organised my own birthday. Not because nobody cares about me. Not because I don’t have people who love me. And certainly not because I don’t enjoy being celebrated. Quite the opposite. I organised my birthday because, over the years, I have become much better at knowing what I want, what I need, and what makes me feel genuinely celebrated. And I’ve realised something: You don’t have to wait for someone else to create the celebration you’re hoping for. You can cel

This morning, I could see my daughter wasn’t quite herself. She was trying to tie her hair up, but it was fuzzy and wouldn’t sit the way she wanted it to. I could see the emotion starting to rise as she became frustrated, and by the time she was ready to walk out the door, I knew she just wasn’t right. There was nothing particularly dramatic about it. No big event had happened. She was just having a moment. So instead of trying to talk her out of it, fix it or tell her she wa

I think you can start to undo, or at least let go of, the past. It's a bit like walking through a house full of furniture and belongings. You can begin to declutter, letting things go one piece at a time. Or, if you're ready, you can fill a truck and ask someone else to take it all away. You don't want or need it anymore. You'd rather have the space filled only with the essentials. We spend so much of our lives accumulating more. More possessions, more commitments, more expe

A little reminder that sometimes the most powerful conversations happen when we stop focusing on what's gone wrong and start noticing what's already strong. After some miscommunication at school that left our daughter and her friend feeling a bit 💩, I pulled out Lucy Hone's strengths cards. The girls identified their individual strengths, then discovered the strengths they shared. Together, they arranged those shared strengths into the shape of a heart. It shifted the conver

"If only..." It's a thought most of us have had at some point. If only I had taken that opportunity. If only I had left sooner. If only I had spoken up. If only I had believed in myself. Regret has a way of convincing us that life would have been better if we had made different choices. But the truth is, we can never know. Every decision we make changes the direction of our lives. If one event had unfolded differently, you may have experienced different opportunities, differe

Today I want to talk about three of the biggest issues I see impacting wellbeing in the workplace and what we can do differently to create healthier, more connected, and more productive environments. The first one is unclear expectations. A lot of workplace conflict doesn’t come from people intentionally doing the wrong thing. It often comes from assumptions. The workplace has expectations of the employee — how they communicate, how they perform, what their responsibilities a

I found this piece in one of my journals dated 1st of January 2025: The tears filled my eyes as I heard of the passing of a police officer who was struck by a car while on duty in the early hours of New Year's Day. She was a Senior Sergeant who had dedicated 38 years of service to the police. I didn't know her personally, and neither did my husband. Yet the news hit hard. Days like today remind us of the reality and the risk that emergency service workers face every time they

This morning I had the privilege of attending a webinar on the past, present, and future of women in sport. What stood out most wasn't just the wealth of knowledge being shared, but the willingness of incredible women from around the world to collaborate, challenge ideas, and support one another. Women's sport continues to evolve, and the more we learn, the more we realise that women are not simply "smaller men." Our bodies, hormones, recovery, and performance all change thro

In a world that celebrates being busy, taking a break can feel uncomfortable. We tell ourselves to keep pushing, keep achieving, keep giving. But rest isn't a reward for reaching exhaustion. It's part of being human. A break doesn't mean you've given up. A pause doesn't mean you're falling behind. Rest doesn't mean you're weak. Sometimes taking a moment to breathe, reflect, and reconnect with yourself is exactly what you need to move forward with clarity and purpose. Whether

This morning it was -5°C in Queenstown. The ground was covered in frost, the roads glistened with black ice, and hanging above it all was a magnificent moon. Like so many others, I caught myself saying, "Wow... look at the moon." Then I smiled. The moon hasn't suddenly appeared. It's been there every single night. Sometimes hidden by clouds. Sometimes just a sliver. Sometimes invisible to us altogether. Yet it's always there, quietly doing what it has always done. It made me

AJ may have been one person with one instrument, but the notes he played carried far beyond the lakeside where so many first heard him. His music sent ripples throughout New Zealand and across the world. His passing is a reminder that you don't need a massive stage to touch millions of lives. Sometimes it's the quietest people who leave the loudest echoes. AJ played because he loved it, and you could feel that in every note. There was no performance or pretence. When he playe

Recently, I walked back from the gondola after an early morning walk, and I found myself thinking about how this world hardens us. We enter this world so pure. So open. So trusting. We are naturally kind, curious, loving, and full of light. Yet somewhere along the way, many of us become guarded. The experiences we have, the hurt we carry, the disappointments we face, and the stories we tell ourselves slowly build a protective shell around our hearts. I look at our daughter, N

Emotions are a natural part of being human. Sometimes, they feel overwhelming or confusing. Learning to manage your feelings well can bring peace, clarity, and a deeper connection with yourself. When you master emotional management methods, you open the door to personal growth and emotional well-being. This journey is about understanding your emotions, accepting them, and responding in ways that support your happiness and balance. Let’s explore how you can develop these skill

Last year, I received some verbal feedback that said I was too diligent. I actually laughed out loud — partly from surprise, partly because… is that even a thing? Being told you’re too diligent feels a bit like being told you’re too kind, too reliable, or too good at turning up on time. It’s feedback that tries to sound constructive, but really it just reveals something interesting about the workplace around you. Diligence isn’t flashy. It’s not loud. It doesn’t need applause